Relationship anxiety & trauma

Online across Canada

Untangling attachment wounds, softening self-protection, and building safer relationships — starting with yourself.

You feel anxious, avoidant, or overwhelmed in relationships.

Do you find yourself overthinking every text? Fearful of being too much or not enough? Or do you long for closeness—and then pull away when someone gets too close?

These are often signs of relational trauma or attachment wounds formed in childhood, past partnerships, or unsafe environments. They shaped how your nervous system learned to protect you, and now those same protective patterns might be getting in the way of the connection you truly want.

What is Relationship Anxiety?

Relationship anxiety is the fear, doubt, or unease that can surface in intimate connections—even in healthy ones. It’s often rooted in past experiences of:

  • Emotional neglect or inconsistent caregiving

  • Parentified childhood

  • Gaslighting, betrayal, or abandonment

  • Being shamed for having needs or emotions

  • Growing up in environments where love felt unsafe or conditional

It can show up as:

  • Fear of rejection or being left

  • Constant need for reassurance

  • Difficulty expressing needs or setting boundaries

  • Feeling too dependent or emotionally distant

  • Getting stuck in people-pleasing, fawning, or emotional overfunctioning

  • Anxiety around dating, vulnerability, or trusting others

You’re not too needy or broken. You adapted to survive.

Relational trauma therapy can help You:

  • Understand the roots of your relational patterns

  • Build a sense of self that’s not based on external validation

  • Learn how to regulate your nervous system when triggered

  • Heal inner parts that carry shame, fear, or abandonment wounds

  • Develop the capacity to give and receive love with more ease

  • Create boundaries without guilt or fear of disconnection

How We’ll Work Together

I combine top-down approaches (i.e. talk therapy) with bottom-up methods (somatic/body-based work) to help shift the way your brain, body, and emotions respond to connection.

Some of the approaches we might use:

  • IFS & parts work to connect with the younger parts of you who fear being hurt or left behind

  • Attachment-based therapy to understand how early relationships shaped how you connect today

  • EMDR to reprocess triggering memories or relationship ruptures

  • Somatic therapy and Mindfulness to build regulation and calm in your body

Our pace is collaborative and attuned. We can move at the pace that suits you, as slow as you need. My priority is to co-create a space where you can explore love, conflict, and connection with self-compassion.

An affirming space for BIPOC, LGBTQ+, and first-generation immigrants

If you've grown up in environments where emotional needs were dismissed or being your full self felt unsafe, relationship anxiety can be compounded by cultural, racial, or identity trauma.

As a queer, first-generation immigrant and woman of colour, I understand how complex it can be to untangle your needs from intergenerational expectations, cultural guilt, or survival adaptations.

This is a space where your lived experience matters. We will co-create a space that works for you and feels safe for your body.

Ready to Build More Secure Relationships?

Whether you're navigating anxiety in a current relationship, unpacking patterns from the past, or simply wanting to feel more emotionally secure, therapy can help. Wherever you are on the attachment spectrum, security can be built over time with practice.